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WHY ARE THESE MEETINGS PHONE ONLY? To protect everyone's privacy and safety, these are Zoom meetings but without any video, so if you choose to speak (which is optional) others can hear you but not see you. To join these meetings, you must enter by phone (i-phone, andriod, landline, etc.). Both audio and video are blocked for anyone trying to enter by computer or internet link (desktop, laptop, palmtop, tablet, pc, etc.). Just call into one of the Zoom phone numbers, enter the meeting ID and then passcode and you're in! You can find the phone numbers, meeting ID and passcode on the times page.


WHAT ARE OUR GUIDELINES FOR SAFE SHARING? You will have the opportunity to share your thoughts, feelings and experiences at all meetings. To do this safely, we use the following 4 safe-sharing guidelines:

Guideline 1 - FOCUS: We keep the focus on our own recovery, and try to use I statements. Anyone may sob freely, express anger, fear or any other feelings. Anger should be directed at the abuse and the abusers, and we do not express anger or criticism towards groups based on gender, race, age, ethnicity, sexual orientation, disability, religious or political affiliations. So, express freely, but, whenever possible, respectfully.

Guideline 2 - HONOR: We honor our fellow survivors by refraining from name calling, criticizing, gossip, or talking about conflicts we may be having with others who are here. Another person’s words, vocal tones, and statements may trigger, upset or anger us. If this happens, we step away from our phones and take time to comfort ourselves.

Guideline 3 - LISTEN: We listen and don't cross talk, which includes no interrupting while others speak, and no giving advice, and no attempting to comfort others. It is okay to say that we identify with what someone else has said and share our personal experience about that topic, but we do not name that other person during our share.

Guideline 4 - RESPECT: We respect each other’s safety by not sharing personal information like last names, DOB, phone numbers, emails or addresses. We respect the group’s anonymity by leaving here what is said here, and we respect the sharing of others by keeping our phones muted at all times when not sharing. To mute and un-mute press *6.


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